There is no pain that can quite compare to that of a heartbreak and it’s a lot worse when the said heartbreak is caused by being cheated on. In a relationship, being cheated on is possibly the worst betrayal one can go through and when it happens, it makes you question a lot of things.

It also takes a lot longer to heal from being cheated on than it would if you were to end a relationship amicably. Believe it or not, you may think you will not survive it but after giving time some time, you will find that it only makes you stronger and you eventually wil get over that douchelord.

There are many things being cheated on can teach you and at the end of it all you can be sure of these 5 things:

It is NOT your fault – Despite what you may think, being cheated on is not on you. It’s completely and totally on the asshat who did it. It doesn’t matter if you were “clingy” or “overbearing” but when someone cheats on you it shows their lack of loyalty and character. Theirs, not yours. So, get that into your head and don’t let the cheater or anyone else make you think you brought this upon yourself.

You are more than enough – Sometimes when such awful thing like being cheated on happens to you, you wander of in your thoughts and think, “Was I not enough? Did I not do enough?” You’ll probably never know the answer but chances are you were more than enough. And if you didn’t put enough effort into the relationship, it doesn’t give the person a hall pass to fall into another woman’s vagina. Just a though, ladies.

Photo: Pop Sugar
Photo: Pop Sugar

You need more than just love – Another thing you will learn once you have been cheated on is that sometimes love is simply not enough to make a relationship work. Just because he loved you, doesn’t mean he didn’t love himself more to satisfy his selfish needs and give in to temptation. For a relationship to truly work you need more than just love. Loyalty, trust, and commitment would also be great.

He’ll do it to her too – I’m not saying that people don’t change for the better but each time you feel shit about the fact that he cheated on you, just know that if he ends up with the person he cheated on you with, he is VERY likely to do it to her too. Again, know that it’s not you and it’s 100% him and the fact that he can’t be monogamous. So, good riddance!

People can sometimes be shitty – Being cheated on really messes up with your trust and how you look at people. One thing you can take with you after being cheated on is that while he may be the king of all dickheads, but not everyone is horrible. Yes, people are capable of ungodly things but not everyone you let in your life will shit all over it. Don’t make the next guy pay for his mistakes but also, always be careful!

How strong you really are – One of the best things you can learn and take away with you after getting through the fact that you were betrayed by being cheated on is how strong you really are. What happened may have rocked your world and devastate you but you got through it and you’re not broken. Like Kelly Clarkson once sang, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!”

Emma Mallaburn
Emma is a writer, dancer and Lucky Charms lover. She enjoys baking muffins, completing puzzle sets and eating both. Her idea of the good life includes pretending she's Amy from The Big Bang Theory and throwing martinis in the faces of those who scorn her. She can be found on Twitter: @emallaburn